"I BEAT MY WIFE LAST NIGHT" by Ayodele Oyadeyi
So it happened last night that my wife annoyed me, and I thoroughly dealt with her. I had complained about her salty dinner only for her to make endless protestations about how I never appreciate anything she takes pain to do for me in the house. When I felt I had had enough of her verbal diarrhoea I ordered her to stop. She would not. Then one thing led to another and one slap followed another; ending in belt lashes and several kicks. I threw her outside, locked my house and wouldn't allow her in till some kind neighbors came to beg me on her behalf. No, it did not start yesterday. Although while we were courting I never laid my hands on her, the truth is that on the countless occasions she had drawn my ire, I had flogged her severally in my mind. If she had looked deeper into my eyes, she would have seen that I was beating her.
Anyway, this morning I woke up and felt remorseful, I apologized to her and professed my undying love for her. I do not understand why she has to turn me into a beast before she gets my message. Expectantly she forgave me. In fairness to her, I think she has a good heart though her behaviors and manners almost always fall short of those of an ideal wife.
Many who analyse physical altercations between boyfriends and girlfriends and between husbands and wives attribute it to illiteracy and/or lack of religious understanding, it is not true in majority of cases and in ours, it is patently false. I am well read and I am a Christian. I have very strong spiritual understanding and I have even counselled singles and couples.
Therefore you can see that I am neither bad nor evil but when you have a particularly difficult girlfriend or wife, you may appear evil and bad. My lady needs to learn how to respect and submit to a man, she needs to learn how to take care of the home, she needs to learn basic cleanliness, she needs to be humble, she needs to be romantic, she needs to be industrious, she needs to be productive, she needs to learn how to cook, she needs to respect my privacy, she needs to be sensitive to my moods…the list goes on almost endlessly. Honestly, there are times I feel she really needs to go back and learn ‘wifery’ from her mother.
People have asked me why I married her, wrong question. Right question is why she married me and why she is still with me! Yes, I loved her and proposed marriage but she could have said no on the spot or thereafter when hints of my person began to emerge. I never hid my person from her. I believe she saw enough to make a decision. Maybe it was my finesse, touch of polish, fine boy-ness, glare, sophistication, or class, maybe she wanted all that and maybe what she wanted blinded her from seeing what she needed. Perhaps she hoped I would change, nothing was and nothing is wrong with me. I hate the feeling that somehow I had forced her to marry me. It was me she wanted, and this is me!
To you puritans who would judge me, why has she not left me if I am so bad? For your information, I have beaten her more than once, though I am not proud of it, but she has had ample opportunities to just walk away. I believe God destined us to be together, and I believe that it is well by His grace.
Look, every relationship has issues. Couples disagree all the time, couples misunderstand themselves all the time and we are no less different.
Anyway, this morning I woke up and felt remorseful, I apologized to her and professed my undying love for her. I do not understand why she has to turn me into a beast before she gets my message. Expectantly she forgave me. In fairness to her, I think she has a good heart though her behaviors and manners almost always fall short of those of an ideal wife.
Many who analyse physical altercations between boyfriends and girlfriends and between husbands and wives attribute it to illiteracy and/or lack of religious understanding, it is not true in majority of cases and in ours, it is patently false. I am well read and I am a Christian. I have very strong spiritual understanding and I have even counselled singles and couples.
Therefore you can see that I am neither bad nor evil but when you have a particularly difficult girlfriend or wife, you may appear evil and bad. My lady needs to learn how to respect and submit to a man, she needs to learn how to take care of the home, she needs to learn basic cleanliness, she needs to be humble, she needs to be romantic, she needs to be industrious, she needs to be productive, she needs to learn how to cook, she needs to respect my privacy, she needs to be sensitive to my moods…the list goes on almost endlessly. Honestly, there are times I feel she really needs to go back and learn ‘wifery’ from her mother.
People have asked me why I married her, wrong question. Right question is why she married me and why she is still with me! Yes, I loved her and proposed marriage but she could have said no on the spot or thereafter when hints of my person began to emerge. I never hid my person from her. I believe she saw enough to make a decision. Maybe it was my finesse, touch of polish, fine boy-ness, glare, sophistication, or class, maybe she wanted all that and maybe what she wanted blinded her from seeing what she needed. Perhaps she hoped I would change, nothing was and nothing is wrong with me. I hate the feeling that somehow I had forced her to marry me. It was me she wanted, and this is me!
To you puritans who would judge me, why has she not left me if I am so bad? For your information, I have beaten her more than once, though I am not proud of it, but she has had ample opportunities to just walk away. I believe God destined us to be together, and I believe that it is well by His grace.
Look, every relationship has issues. Couples disagree all the time, couples misunderstand themselves all the time and we are no less different.
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